How to understand that it’s not just pre-wedding jitters.
“Marriage is one of the most serious obligations. It is natural to feel uncomfortable, associating himself with another person for life, but at what point that feeling becomes a signal of a more significant issue?” – the journalist writes Carolyn Lehmann in his column for The Huffington Post.
She calls ten signs that you are ready for marriage.
1. The thought of marriage horrifies and overwhelms you
If the idea that at least the next ten or twenty years of life you have to spend with this person, you flinch before the wedding it is better not to bring.
2. You love your partner, but you in him or her not in love
If you chose someone because you think he’ll make a good husband or wife, but you’re not in love, you should think whether you are ready for marriage – or, at least, to marriage with this person.
3. You have secrets from each other
To serious secrets includes information on with whom and how you spend time, data about your finances or dependency.
4. Divorce does not scare you
If you approach marriage from the standpoint of “if we don’t, we’ll just get divorced”, it indicates the unwillingness to potentially serious liabilities.
5. You have different beliefs and views on life
The fundamental contradictions can be attributed to the inability to agree on what faith you will raise your children.
6. You and your partner are not so long-familiar
If you know each other for less than two years, with marriage, don’t hurry. This applies to people of all ages.
7. You repeat again and again the same argument
If you are unable to deal with the conflict and hear each other, this is a bad signal. Especially if we are talking about the same dispute that is repeated with enviable regularity. The problem will not disappear by itself, when you get married.
8. You marry out of guilt, fear or desire to please someone else
Perhaps you’re getting married, not to hurt the partner or because they do not want to disrupt this earlier promise. Sometimes men and women enter into marriage, believing that this is their last chance, or because I want to please my parents. But this is a big mistake.
9. You like what your partner can become, not who he is
If you hope that with marriage your partner will change, maybe you shouldn’t tie your life to this person. It is unlikely that after marriage, your fiance suddenly wants to have kids, if sharply opposed.
10. You are interested in an open marriage, but partner did not yet said
You’re not even married yet. If you need marriage without rules, why you do it? If you are interested in an open marriage, you should try polyamory or swinging long before going to the altar. If monogamy scares, it may make sense to wait and think about what you really want.
