Along with dramatic changes in life: cohabitation, the advent of children, a maelstrom of domestic issues – changing the emotional background of the relations between husband and wife, which, respectively, affects physical intimacy.
Everyone has their own reason that you need to find and fix.
According to statistics, 20% of couples have sex less than 10 times a year. Decrease in sexual desire is a complex problem for various reasons, so solve it the only way possible. For each couple needs an individual approach, because the reason for the decline of passion from everyone. We need to examine the medical and psychological factors of the relationship, to determine the cause of lowered sexual desire.
People vary in level of sexual desire. To the person enough to have sex once or twice a week, it seems that the partner who wants to have sex daily – “sex maniac”. Although the desire of each of them is considered the norm. To diagnose hypoactive sexual desire, can only be subject to a complete loss of sexual desire, the disappearance of sexual fantasies, or permanent lack of sexual activity not related to illness or medication. Hypoactive sexual desire occurs more frequently in women than in men.
The sexual cycle begins with desire. The desire is in the brain. In men, sexual desire is caused by visual stimulus, women are the passion associated with romantic words and actions. For sexual desire arousal and orgasm. The longer there is a lack of sexual desire, the harder and longer the treatment.
LOSS OF THE ORIGINAL PASSION
In the initial stages of the relationship, there are love and love, which cause chemical changes in the brain, thereby increasing the level of sexual passion and desire. Chemistry provides sexual activity without having to listen to sexual preferences or additional stimulation of sexual desire.
Sexual problems resulting from childhood trauma, negative attitudes, sexual taboos, or low libido can be temporarily overpowered the initial passion of a relationship. Over time, the stress of being in love subsides, and with chemistry subsides passion, and sexual problems are on its place.
CONFLICTS AND GRIEVANCES
Conflict or open hostility that occur over a long time can cause reduction of passion and sexual desire. While some people feel relief after a verbal battle, other accumulated emotional pain as a result of “turn off” sexual desire.
THE LACK OF EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
For women sexual desire associated with romantic relationships. In women there is an urgent need for emotional intimacy before sex, and men such a need arises after sex.
THE SEPARATION OF LOVE AND SEX
Couples in egalitarian, communicative and comfortable relationships are experiencing a weak sex drive and rarely have sex, on those occasions when they perceive their relationship more Platonic, not erotic or romantic. Because distance, novelty, mystery, danger, distinguished by a burning sexual passion, a long familiarity and a sense of security can suppress and extinguish passion. In addition, people who are accustomed to separate sex and love, may experience suppressed sexual desire in their true relations, but at the same time they feel sexual arousal by someone whom they do not consider as a partner for life together.
THE LACK OF ATTRACTION
Obvious reasons for avoiding sexual contact – lack of physical attractiveness because of poor personal hygiene, excessive weight, inability to dress attractively for a partner. Unfortunately, many people in relationships where they have never experienced “sexual chemistry” in relation to a partner; they are not enjoying from the view, the touch or kiss of your partner. There are DNA components that are part of the chemistry between two people, and which may not be enough. A sad trick of nature is that we are most attractive to people whose DNA is almost opposite our own. Thus, we can be attractive to people who look and behave not as standard, but which is very difficult to find a common language because of a mismatch of interests and mismatch of values.
SEXUAL PROBLEMS
If non-sensual sexual relations and poor sexual desire subsides with time. The woman is not experiencing orgasm, or a man who is experiencing premature ejaculation or erection problems may try to avoid intimacy, because they expect that sex will not bring pleasure. Constant bickering, about how many times a week to have sex (and each partner has its own peculiar frequency) can lead to cessation of sexual intimacy. Especially if the partner feels unresponsive operating pressure or insistence of a partner.
INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS
Sexual desire is often affected by stress at work, personal grief, fatigue, anxiety, depression. People who have suffered childhood sexual, emotional, physical violence, or was raised in a family where sex was regarded as something bad and unworthy may refer to sexual life, as something frightening or disgusting.
HOW TO RESTORE THE SEXUAL DESIRE?
To identify the cause of decreasing sexual desire. To explore childhood memories, to work out any violence.
You need to improve the quality of communication between partners, treat each other with respect and understanding, share experiences, thoughts, dreams.
To pay more attention to romance and sensuality.
In some cases, symptomatic treatment aphrodisiacs.
Remember that problems that have accumulated over the years cannot be solved in a moment.
