I mastered all the tips on the cultivation of yourself, and now I will Express my point of view. Largely agree with many commenters, but here’s a caveat I’d like to draw your attention. Civilized man may be the only starting issues. Only when he will ask himself questions about the world, about why so and not otherwise, he will begin to reclaim. Let me explain. You can copy any mannerisms, memorize rules and regulations, to develop good habits. But all this will only be grimacing and acting. People need to understand why it is so and not otherwise. Explain this on the example of internal dialogue with yourself.
– Why did you leave garbage in nature after the picnic?
Because there is still plenty of trash.
Is not the cause but the consequence. Why did you do it?
Well… I was too lazy to mess with the garbage. Moreover, still there is garbage.
– You could clean up your garbage and part of another. The world would become a little clearer. Isn’t that right?
– Well, after all, still a mess again…
You don’t want the cultural world around you to be cultural?
– Apparently, Yes.
But as the world will be cultural, if any part of the existing uncivilized world constantly supports him in this state?
Culture is always violence. First of all, violence against ourselves. Yourself need to constantly be forced to be cultural. But the paradox – cultural man does violence to itself, when there is uncivilized. Thus, we conclude that the correct model of the behavior of people needs not only to copy but to understand, to accept it, follow it, not because behaving like role models, but because it can not be otherwise. I recently wrote that we don’t love our children. Some commentators were indignant, they say, it’s not, here we love and his, and others’. But I wrote not about the passive sense, but about feeling-action. That feeling when an ugly world around you want to make beautiful, because in this world the children will live.
As a child I knew one grandfather, who used to go swimming on a small beach on the river. From early spring to late autumn. Once I saw how he swims.
– And it seemed to me that you can’t swim, ” I said to him when he came ashore.
– Why do you think so?
– A lot of going in the water and don’t swim (in fact, I thought that he was afraid to swim, worrying that the heart will stop and he will drown).
Grandpa showed me a piece of rusty iron, which he pulled from the bottom. This small beach went to his grandchildren – he constantly examined the bottom, because there is always grilled kebabs vacationers. Sometimes with the massacre and smashing bottles on heads each other. Grandpa was worried that the grandchildren might get hurt by shrapnel and are therefore regularly examined the bottom. Here is the love of which I spoke. Quiet, not ostentatious, but active.
It is our national trait – we love the scale. Happy have to do all at once. Culture – to the masses. But in fact, reliable results loves careful, leisurely pace. A cultural make at least one person – yourself, and the world has become more civilized. To justify the fact that around cattle, but what I’m most cultural, is shameful. I once met an elderly teacher of Russian language and literature. And tactfully asked her why she says “lay down”? She sighed and said, “we all say so, I’m tired all correct…” I was in shock from such recognition. As if the eyes saw as the last Bastion of defense of the beautiful city and its streets flooded by barbarian hordes. Don’t give up. Maybe you are the last Bastion…
Do I need to read to become a cultural? Need. But more importantly – to think. Not lying to oneself and not to justify himself. In Ingushetia, the young men stand up when a senior enters. As explained by one young Ingush – I’m not for him (the old man included) get up I get up. This is the real culture when is the proper norm of conduct – a part of you. Behave correctly even when the terms of incivility. And behave may be the only person who understands why he behaves that way.
