Psychologists told how to overcome their complexes and fears and start no problems to communicate with people.
There secrets of how to overcome the fear of communication, if it is present in humans. This was stated by the psychologist Vlad Berezansky.
“Afraid to participate in debates and discussions? Then start small! Sign up on the Internet in various forums and actively take part in discussions of certain issues! Comment on photos or statuses of friends on social networks, sign up in social networks for various news groups or interest groups and comment on everything you read. Thus, you already will start to conduct active communication, which you then will be much easier to move in real life,” gave the first recommendation of the psychologist.
Also V. Berezansky advised practice on the Internet, take action and start to chat with strangers on the street just for some small things.
“Ask how to get to a certain shop or establishment, say Hello to the salesperson and ask him or her about the product that he sells. If the store you saw the promoter who conducts a tasting, be sure to take part in it – try a product and ask about its properties, price, qualities, differences from others and so on. At the same time, be sure to broaden your horizons.
It will simply help you to maintain any conversation. Because if you are in a business environment, where all discuss the news concerning your work, you’ll definitely be able to hold a conversation. But if you come to an informal party, it is a good idea to be aware of the latest news of cinema and show-business, minimal knowledge about new gadgets, about the events that took place or are planned in your city and much more.
It’s simple – if you don’t own the topic, then no matter how sociable you are, you will be hard to maintain a conversation when you do not possess relevant information. Although there is also a plus. Confess, if you don’t know something. This is absolutely normal. Should not hesitate to hang the label is not sociable and closed person, if you do not own a subject. The situation when a person gets into the environment, which speaks an unfamiliar topic, there is absolutely all – mega-sociable people and very sociable. This situation can be beat in their favor! After all, you can ask a lot of questions, and thereby to train your sociability!
And if someone laughed at you: “How can you not know this?” attutides and will refer that you just a very busy person and this news just passed you,” – said V. Berezansky.
Thus, according to the psychologist, it is necessary to look for new friends.
“This will not only help you to overcome the fear of communication, but also will make your life a lot! Where to find new friends? Today, more than plenty of ways. First, it is the Internet. It is familiar not only men with women, but people of the same sex, which in the future become friends. Find friend online on the same forum or group in social networks, which is dedicated to your hobby or favorite cause. If we talk about real life, then you can easily get acquainted with your new neighbors that have just moved into a house, go on two-day trip or a sightseeing tour, and to make acquaintance and friendship with members of the group. Also attend various events such as conversation clubs, play mafia game, quests that are now satisfied with a dining space, festivals and other events,” – said the expert.
The psychologist added that, if you are very hard to cope with this problem, like social anxiety, you should seek the advice of a psychologist.
