How to celebrate the life and not to go after him
The government has prepared a bill, which should bring order to the market of funeral services. Agents will be given licenses. For “draining” information on the deceased out of state institutions will be fined. In the country there are private and religious cemeteries and even funeral MFTS. In the meantime, the funeral for the deceased loved ones remains difficult and expensive. “Ribbon.<url>” tried to understand the intricacies of this almost secret procedure.
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In our peacetime death occurs most often by natural causes, and it happens within the walls of his home, surrounded by loved ones.
According to the established order, the first step is to report the death to the police and doctors. To call the last in the daytime you need to call in the local hospital, and at night and weekends in an ambulance.
The task of the police is to make the Protocol of examination of the body and to ensure no crime, but a doctor to pronounce him dead. We must prepare for the fact that it is not done quickly. But if he died a relatively young man, most likely, the inspection will conduct an entire investigation team, and the body sent for forensic examination.
In fact, the autopsy can be avoided only if there is a thick medical record history of a severe, long illness of the deceased and the relevant application close.
You should enter the position of the police and the medics, insisting on medical examination: in the capital, even the old and poor people become victims of the killers, if they are the owners of real estate.
However, from a Christian point of view, the autopsy does not in any way harm the soul of the deceased. “If it is possible to avoid such a procedure — well, if not to worry about it not worth it”, — explained “the Tape.<url>” the high-priest Konstantin Kobelev.
The autopsy services of the city Department ambulance transportation (“trupovozki”), storing the body in the morgue for seven days — all for free. At the morgue have no right to ask a fee for washing, dressing and laying the deceased in the coffin.
Photo: Valeriy Melnikov / RIA Novosti
Do not believe anyone
The funeral services market is crowded with scammers so much that even the Chairman of the Moscow trade Union of workers of this sphere Anton Avdeev recommends not to trust anyone or anything, and when choosing an agent make use of the advice of relatives and friends.
You need to know that employees of state enterprises of relatives of the deceased do not call — it is the machinations of private agents. Not to get into their network, created a hot line of funeral services, where to go for advice and assistance. For example, in Moscow on +7 (499) 610-00-00. In General, the capital has become much easier to execute all necessary documents, however annoying agents usually take a considerable Commission.
Those who brazenly breaks in your apartment, can understand a policeman who arrived to describe the corpse. To protect the constitutional right of the citizen to inviolability of the home and private life — his duty, which may have correctly recalled.
There’s no rush
Funeral fraudsters, like any other, seek to establish and maintain the victim a feeling of great urgency all procedures: “we Need to execute now, otherwise it will be too late.” In the beginning of the interview such “experts” often describe the deplorable state of Affairs in morgues and cemeteries, the consequences of falling oil prices and so on, then follow the hints on the possibility to use Dating “your humble servant” and unique discounts.
Finally, if the clock treatment gave no results and the person asked has the time to “think things through”, he reported that “during this time, the agent could visit for two ‘” and must pay “for consultation.” At times the experiencing the loss simply don’t have the strength to resist the agents, and their persistence is explained by the fact that information about “the fresh stiffs” already paid funds to the duty of the police or the emergency Manager.
Meanwhile, to select the location for burial, arrange the transportation to the cemetery, pick up the coffin, a cross and other items is not difficult. All this is done in the morgue, where relatives go behind the certificate of death, taking with him the clothes for the deceased.
Psychologists advise loved ones not to shy from solving problems associated with the funeral.
“In any case should not shield the person in the acute phase of grief from the environment, to close on their own experiences, says psychologist Victor Vorotyntsev. On the contrary, decides to let the paperwork, the cemetery, with a table, with the monument and so on. But it is impossible to prevent and the other extreme: to drop everything for someone one. Roughly speaking, a person must pass through these thorns, but know that he stands ready to assist”.
Lately thorns became less. In multifunctional centers “My documents” to obtain a death certificate (stamp) has become much easier and faster — you just have to submit a medical death certificate and passport: your and the deceased (if available).
Photo: Dmitry Lokaj / “Kommersant”
About the soul
The majority of Russians accompanied the funeral rites of the Russian Orthodox Church, adding to them some pagan traditions. The funeral is among the religious, not the consumer services, so any guarantees here to rely you should not.
You should know also that the funeral is not one of the sacraments — it can be held in absentia, and not only in the walls of the temple. For example, in the morgue.
“It is better to choose a temple somewhere on the way between the morgue and the cemetery. There and order the service. Will not have the feeling of the conveyor. There are more opportunities for attentive prayer, ” explains Archpriest Konstantin Kobelev. — There, in the temple recommend and finish the parting with the deceased to take to the cemetery already boarded up coffin. Still in the Church to deal with emotions easier. There is no need to provoke outbursts of feelings”.
Agree about the funeral better in person, for several days, and immediately discuss the cost of the ritual.
Father Constantine recommends to accompany the most severe close to the time of immersion of the body in the grave with the singing of lithium — special prayers of the departed. It can be done by own relatives or invite a deacon of the Church, which will hold and burn incense incense Church.
Dead man should not be viewed by Christians as some kind of evil spirit that you want a speedy way to withdraw from the apartment by getting rid things the deceased.
“If the apartment in which the deceased lived, going to rent, better to wait 40 days,” explains Archpriest, until finally the soul of man will not leave this world. But if you want to transfer some of his things to the homeless and needy, some valuable items in social shelters and so on, you can not wait for the end of this period. Here, of course, talking about a God-pleasing business”.
Father Constantine highlights that, of all the rituals immediately after death, you should pay attention to those that have a practical meaning: to close eyes, to give the body proper position to tie up the chin. Hang a mirror if necessary, except that in order “to grief-stricken people once again not seen their sad faces”.
According to Victor Vorotyntseva, modern psychology came to the conclusion that the stages through which man must pass for the proper realization and acceptance of loss, in General, coincide with religious: 3 days, 9 days, 40 days, a year.
Ashes to ashes
A death certificate will help arrange a place in the cemetery, which the Russian government provides to its citizens free — under the law. However, within the city of these “budget”.
“The state guarantees citizens the provision of services for the burial of the dead gratis specialized services, it allocated the relevant funds, — says the lawyer luberetskiy bar Association Diana agasieva. The citizens, who took the responsibility to carry out burial on a reimbursable basis, the state pays social benefits”.
Among these uncompensated services — the paperwork, the provision and delivery of a coffin, transportation of body to cemetery, burial (cremation).
In the Metropolitan area by 2016, the burial allowance more than the Federal 11 thousand and is about 16 thousand rubles. Payment for burial of participants of the great Patriotic war can reach up to 38 thousand rubles. If dead non-working pensioner, ask for the money to be in the Pension Fund, taking the work book of the deceased. Otherwise — the employer. If the deceased was unemployed in Department of social protection of the population. The disabled, war veterans and soldiers buried by the Ministry of defence.
Photo: Konstantin Chalabov / RIA Novosti
Free free sites of Muscovites are provided on Perepechenko cemetery in the suburbs. In a part of city of tombstone are only related in the grave after a sanitation period (15 years after the previous one) or for money.
If a man died who owned a passport akin to the grave, his loved ones can renew it only when the presence of the document proving the kinship — birth certificate. Otherwise you’ll have to go to court.
Selling plots in the cemetery, under the current legislation, may only be exercised by the relevant government bodies. In Moscow this Ritual. The position about private cemeteries in Russia is contained in the Ministry of construction recently developed the bill which has not yet been considered in Parliament.
Last fall in the capital arrested six fraudsters from one funeral firm was operating on 12 of the capital’s cemeteries. They received from their clients ‘ money on the funeral and the purchase of burial places. The funds have disappeared in an unknown direction. The detainees were deceived about 150 people.
Hidden from the stranger’s scheme of selling plots in the cemetery gives scope for corruption on the part of the cemetery fieldworkers and agents. Authorities are trying to change the situation, but the results are far from expected.
This spring, the city authorities put up the place for future family burials at public auction — with a note that auction items are on permanent exhibition. In 2015 the price for this lot started from 227 thousand rubles, and this spring — from 24 thousand for the burial in the urn and 55.2 thousand for burial in a coffin.
