Psychologists explained why the woman unwittingly turns into a “saw”.
Let’s talk about those women, who are often dissatisfied. They find a weak spot of her husband and methodically treated him, hoping to get their way..
Nina Davydova, a practicing psychologist, accredited Gestalt therapist told who the women saw:
“The woman saw was not such a good life. Most likely, she nags her husband from his own unconscious inner pain. It’s a pain that prevents. Of course, others that does not help. And to change something requires difficult inner work.
Here are 5 main reasons why a woman becomes “the woman saw”:
1. We all come from families. This may be the only relationship model, all borrowed from the parents. Conflicts in the family could be due to this behavior of the mother, when the man tried to criticize, evaluate, and constantly were unhappy. Accordingly, growing up, a girl in another can not build relationships.
2. The Position Of The Victim. Actually, “saw” is the same as the victim. Yelling, angry and everything she does not. A very profitable situation in which you will constantly save, to try to please and appease. Just not screaming. And a family and live happily ever after, that is called a dependent relationship.
3. Unmet need. Maybe a woman just coming out of maternity leave and she has not yet formed a field for professional realization or desire for control and power does not allow you to let go and relax. Many options needs may be. And what to do with unmet needs? – That’s right, to satisfy.
4. The work of the unconscious. According to psychoanalytic theory, woman is by nature inherent in the desire to “emasculate” a man. So someone more informed could pacify their destructive desire. Someone male will come across one that is put in place and their boundaries clearly marked. And someone- on psychotherapy, to work with your unconscious.
5. Unjustified expectations. Perhaps at the moment of creating the family you both were different. You had plans, dreams and expectations. And not all of them came true, or have changed or you are the kind of person who constantly expects other people. And usually, the more fascinated and expect, the more often we meet with disappointment. The main recommendation here – back to reality, take itself, and other the way it is.
Dear “the woman saw” if you have found that are such, all is not lost. As they say, is in the world only 2 kinds of individuals: some are satisfied, they live to complete, support what is. While the latter is eternal all are not happy, they always want to change something, they are constantly something is not satisfied. Yes, the second is women! What to do: to stop, to cease to nag her husband and answer honestly to the question “what do I want”. Look, it’s definitely the guy next, which must be constantly monitored and nurtured. And look for other forms to obtain the desired, than to nag others.
