Psychotherapist Elena Kuznetsova told what a serious mistake made in dealing with kids all parents.
Even assuming that you — the most loving and attentive parent in the world, from errors nobody is insured. How to communicate with the child, no you will not teach, and therefore will have to proceed by trial and error, sometimes reaping the fruits of his pedagogic activities for many years to come.
According to psychotherapist Elena Kuznetsova, there is one error to which all parents tend brand. And if in time it not to notice and not to stop, the consequences may not be the best way to affect your baby relationship.
Adults tend to substitute children the tools of understanding the world fragments of your own images.
Instead — “and what about it do you think?”, “and how do you feel?”, “what’s it like?”, they are ready to share the insights out of your head. (And most surprisingly — it is not always from her!)
Like are so confident of the helplessness of the child for feeling, thinking and choosing that it makes no sense to start.
While sharing the fish, not the rod. Fish not fresh, I must say, and sometimes even a foul… Under the slogan “all best — to children”.
I am no exception. Constantly find myself wanting to feed her child “digested food”. However, it is important to stop yourself — “feed” a baby is worth as much about how much you are ideally breast-feed him — two years before!
After this case, moms and dads — to answer questions, while giving the child to speak independently.
There are advantages Yes, in such a strategy. Children, overfed parent content, is very sensitive to others… If you have the strength to distinguish and spit out at least a part of the parent. Plus, of course, relative. If the parent is completely absent mindfulness, she has the ability to engage the child. But in the beginning as a gag reflex. The emergence of a new scratch.
We talk to the child FOR THEMSELVES and ABOUT THEMSELVES. It’s not the most useful way, so, dear parents, try to at least occasionally stop and watch from outside with my toddler communication: do not fold the stick, not “overfed”?
