In the Internet there are many Dating sites. Before you sign up somewhere, do your research.
Previously, we usually found my soul mate at University, at work, perhaps in a bar or through friends and relatives. But today, people increasingly find each other on Dating sites – especially those over 50. Various studies show that older people – the fastest growing segment of the Dating services.
If you are looking for love, the Internet can be the perfect tool for this. I say this not only as an expert Dating site Рerfectmatch.com but as someone who met my partner five years ago in this manner.
Here are tips on how to effectively and safely look for a partner on the Internet:
1. Make sure you are ready
If you are not ready to meet, to build a healthy relationship you will not succeed. You should feel quite happy and confident.
If you still feel anger or pain from a previous relationship, wait for a bit. You must be open, positive and ready for a new adventure. If you find it difficult to achieve an appropriate state, you may want to think about visiting a psychologist.
2. Be prepared
In the Internet there are many Dating sites. Before you sign up somewhere, do your research and choose which one you like best. There are sites for which charges need to pay, and there are free (personally, I think it’s safer for the resources on which all users are required to enter your credit card number, that is, they are not entirely anonymous). Match.com – the most popular of the paid sites, but there are a lot more compact and targeted services. For example, equestriansingles.com site for those who are interested in horses, fitsingles.com – for single athletes. There are sites for Asians, Christians, gays, Jews and even ivy League graduates.
3. Enlist the support of friends
While filling profile on the site and selecting photos, ask someone from friends to help you. In this case we need an objective point of view. Some photos may seem perfect, but each will have a different opinion. Trust the other. You might think what you wrote is very alluring brief description, but from the side it would look too arrogant or, on the contrary, shy. Perhaps there is too much written about children and very little about you. Give this text a few friends to check.
4. Avoid clichés
You will realize when you read what others write about themselves on Dating sites. There are too many people who “like long walks on the beach”, “I love theatre, good restaurants and exotic travel. Whatever you write, make sure it accurately conveys your values, goals and way of life, because this is exactly what distinguishes you from others.
5. Do not limit your opportunities
Be prudent in answering questions about what you are looking for in a partner. Some sites ask about your “stumbling blocks”, that is things that you in any case are not satisfied. If you make your list too long, it will limit your possibilities. Include only absolutely necessary things (for example, discard the requirement that your partner must have at least a master’s degree, but save the item that will not date a smoker).
6. Protect yourself
When you find someone in whom you are interested – or that someone will find you so please be careful. At least in the initial phase to talk on a cell and do not give your home phone number, which can be associated with your address. For a first date, meeting in a safe public place like a coffee shop is an ideal option. Until you know the person better and not be sure that he is who he claims to be, don’t let him drive you or even accompany you to the car, if the place is secluded. Although most people do not want anything bad, it is better not to risk it.
Pepper Schwartz, American sexologist
